Fourth, the child. You will note that all of the videos above are listed under the third section. This is because most of this is about the interaction with the child and the way the child has learned to communicate his or her wants, needs, and feelings...Another great resource is Devereux and the fabulous resources they have available.
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I dont think we realize exactly how much impact the outside world has on our kids.
>>>> to Katie Bowman....
The world has a ridiculous amount of influence on our children. It sucks because the worlds influences are not the best for our children. Our entertainment industry has such a negative impact on our youth today and it makes it really hard for us parents to keep up and intervene especially with the technology out these days that gives our children access to everything they shouldn't and we are losing control as parents to what our children are exposed to.
I like how getting help after you have tried the first 3 steps. Even though bringing someone else in can be uncomfortable but you can learn something new and have a different perspective of your relationship and environment.
MAA
What can you do if a certain type of an influence that is negative for a child, for example shootings or disasters, that you can not change or get rid of it?
MAA
There are always bad things that happen all around and unfortunately sometimes to children. Children with a lot of resilience tend to do better in-spite of the bad things that happen. There are a lot of ways to support children in developing resilience to include having caring and loving adults around and supporting them without doing too much for them or keeping too much from them (which is depends on a lot of variables). More resources are found here: http://www.google.com/cse?cx=partner-pub-5711788274796738:8793597909&ie=UTF-8&q=resilience&sa=Search&ref=#gsc.tab=0&gsc.q=resilience&gsc.page=1
Getting help from someone else is great. It gives a different perspective and ideas.
I agree having a lot of support and resources for a child to go to and where they feel safe to express themselves without judgement and where they feel comfortably safe and reassured from a trusted source is vital.
We need to get support from other resources. It helps us learn as times are changing. Different prospectives has either helped reinforced our method or opened our eyes to things we haven't thought of.
I do think that a lot of our outside world has an affect on children. Now working in a facility with many children some know when bad things happen and others do not for instant school shootings or like 9/11. My question is when is it ok or not ok to let your children be involved? I know shutting them out is not a good thing either. So that said I strongly believe in having extra help and resources to help with any situation. The video about controlling chaos was very good. Being very persistent and keeping calm are huge factors with that one.
I know that kids are influenced by the adults in the classroom. But it was never more evident how big of an impact the emotional state of an adult can be on a child than when I got divorced. My emotional state was extremely depressed and upset. I thought I was covering well and that my 7 year old wasn't the wiser to how I was doing. Now I realize it effected her in school and emotionally. Now things are MUCH better so I am working on helping her to recover as well.
I think there may be some videos missing from section 4... or rather section 3, that were referred to in section 4. But, having read the comments, I can get an idea of what is being taught. So, Everyone that is around a child is an influence on that child. Movies they watch, video games, TV commercials, magazines, music videos, arguing and stressed parents... the list goes on and on and on!!! So much negativity, exploitation, and things that kids just don't understand. So sad.... I have asked for advice from people "above me" in a couple situations. One was very sad and wrong... It's so great to get another perspective on a child's family troubles, and help in dealing with the situation. Even if there is no punishable abuse, some things just need to be talked about with someone "higher up" with more experience.
I think that if you feel you need some new options or opinions then that is great. Getting advice and new perspective is not a bad thing. If you do not like the advice then do not follow it, but it is worth a shot!
All of these examples seem to drive back to the same point of ... teach by example. if we want johnny to cut the paper do we cut our hair then tell him no when he follows? but if johnny is cutting everyone's hair even when the teacher is fluent in the positivity and control of the environment there may be some other need/ issue going on. some things that can be aided in need a professional look...the sooner the better.
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